I have my first period, what should I do?

Your body has been changing for the past few months. Hair has been appearing on your pubic area and under your armpits, and your breasts are gradually growing. And maybe for the first time today, you discovered blood when you went to the bathroom. There's a little in your panties, a little on the toilet paper. Unless it happened to one of your friends recently, and now you're starting to ask yourself questions. How do you handle your first period? When will it arrive? What protection should you choose? Don't panic: we're here to help you, answer your questions, and offer solutions. As people who menstruate, we're sharing in this article all the things we wish we'd known when we got our first period.

* This article was written for young girls about to get their period or who have just gotten their first period to provide them with information. If you are a parent looking to support your child, you will find resources and information to better help them through this time!

First of all, know that talking about your period is not taboo!

Let's start at the beginning: periods are not taboo. Contrary to what you may have heard around you, at school or college, there is no shame in having your period . It's normal, natural, healthy, even: it's a sign that your body is developing well if you have your period after all! And this is true regardless of the age at which you get it: we are all different!

Talking about periods is not taboo

“Ragnagna,” “stuff,” “things”: there’s no shortage of words to talk about periods without naming them! As women, we’ve learned not to talk about periods, to hide them, not to mention them. As if it were shameful, dirty, dangerous.

But that's not the case. Periods are natural and healthy. They are proof that our menstruating bodies are working and that our menstrual cycle is underway. So, okay, it's not always fun (we'll talk about that again!), but it's nothing to be ashamed of! Many of us on this planet have periods! ;)

In other words, don't stop yourself from talking about periods if you want to . It's normal that you have questions to ask, it's normal that you want to know more. And conversely , you have the right not to talk about it or to talk about it to the people you choose: your body, your choices.

Respect other people's choices about rules

YOUR body, YOUR choices.

HIS body, HIS choices.

Kindness is understanding that we all have a different relationship with our bodies and that we can each make our own decisions. This applies in general, but also to the issue of periods.

In other words, information and solutions that work for you don't necessarily work for your friends. Just because you get your period at 14 doesn't mean all your friends have to get it. Just because you have period pain doesn't mean all your friends do. Or just because you're comfortable with tampons doesn't mean all your friends do too. And so on!

Kindness, listening and understanding should be the key words when it comes to menstruation. ❤️

How do you approach the subject with the adults around you?

We just talked about kindness and listening: this also applies to your interactions with adults. Reading an article about periods is a good way to inform yourself about them, but know that you have other people around you who are responsible and can help you and answer your questions.

The subject of periods isn't a taboo subject, but it's not necessarily an easy one to broach. It's not easy to talk about it during dinner or in the middle of a family meal! If your loved ones haven't broached the subject with you themselves, you can either bring it up directly during a quiet time or write it down. It's sometimes easier to write a letter expressing your questions and doubts: this will help open the discussion.

Among the people who can accompany you:

• Your parents
• Your extended family: an aunt, a godmother, a cousin…
• Your friends
• Your teachers
• A healthcare professional: If you don't feel comfortable talking about periods with your parents, you can contact your school nurse or ask to see a doctor with or without your parents. They will be able to answer all your medical questions.

Menstrual education is important for your health and comfort

The second point we felt was essential to discuss with you: the fact that menstrual education is essential. Understanding how your body and your menstrual cycle work (this is what causes periods, we'll talk about that later) is important.

Indeed, the menstrual cycle and the hormonal turmoil that brings it about have different repercussions on the bodies of people who menstruate on a daily basis.

In bulk:

• Menstrual pain: migraines, lower abdominal cramps, chest tension
• Mood swings
• Fatigue before or during menstruation
• Skin problems (hello acne!)
• Fertility: Having your period means being old enough to get pregnant. The question of contraception and protection must then be asked. It's also important to know the dangerous days of your cycle !

And beyond these sometimes disabling symptoms, understanding your period and anticipating it can help you avoid moments of significant discomfort and embarrassment (forgetting your menstrual protection, unexpected overflow, stains, etc.). The more you understand your period, the more you will be able to manage it and the more confident you will feel, even during your period.

Periods: Why do they happen? We explain everything

Okay. Kindness, listening, education. The prerequisites are set. Now let's get to the heart of the matter: what are rules? What are they for?

What is this ?

Periods, also called “menstruation” or “periods” , are blood flow from the uterus and represent one of the stages of the menstrual cycle . Each person who menstruates has different periods: their spacing, duration and flow are therefore very variable from one person to another. There can be short menstrual cycles and long menstrual cycles .

Periods are part of the menstrual cycle

The menstrual cycle is a natural process that occurs every month in menstruating people of reproductive age (between approximately 12 and 50 years old). This cycle, which lasts approximately 28 days (but this varies greatly!), has four distinct phases: the follicular phase, ovulation, the luteal phase, and menstruation.

During the follicular phase , ovarian follicles create eggs. One of these eggs matures and is released: this is ovulation . The egg, which has a lifespan of 24 to 48 hours, then travels through the fallopian tubes towards the uterus: this is the time when you are most fertile. The luteal phase begins as the body prepares for a possible pregnancy. When the body realizes that the egg has not been fertilized, it expels it: your period begins. A new cycle begins at the same time!

What are rules for?

The role of menstruation is to expel the unfertilized egg from your body, as well as all the preparation your body has made in the event of pregnancy (we are thinking in particular of the endometrium, which is the set of cells that are created in the uterus to properly accommodate the fertilized egg). This is why periods can be quite heavy : it is not just a matter of expelling a tiny egg, but also the endometrium.

Furthermore, periods are an integral part of the menstrual cycle: without a period, there is no menstrual cycle and no fertility.

The different rules

There are as many periods as there are menstruating people. If you have the opportunity to talk about it with your family or friends, you will realize that:

• The duration of periods is different for each menstruating person : generally, they last between 2 and 5 days;
• The flow of periods varies greatly: very heavy in some people, to the point of finding blood clots, very light in others...
• The length of the menstrual cycle varies: between two periods, some people will count 20 days, while others 30, or even 40. And this time can even vary and make the arrival of the period completely unpredictable (this is often the case during the first period).

And also, we'll tell you again here, but your periods can change throughout your life! The first periods are often irregular (in duration, flow, etc.) and tend to regulate themselves over the course of your life. Contraception, pregnancy, or even life events (illness, stress) can change your periods !

The different colors of the rules

Beyond duration and flow, period color can also vary from day to day! We'll tell you everything about the different period colors!

• Bright red: Periods are bright red on the heaviest days, as the flow is cooler and more regular. Time passes quickly, so it doesn't have time to oxidize and darken.
• Dark red: Dark red is very common, especially upon waking. Lying down for several hours causes the blood in the uterus to oxidize before it is expelled. At the end of a period, blood can also be dark red because it flows more slowly.
• Brown or black: As with dark red blood, you may notice brown or black blood at the very beginning or end of your cycle, when it takes longer for blood to leave your body.
• Light pink: Periods can be light pink when the blood mixes with white vaginal discharge, resulting in this pale color. Other reasons for light pink blood include anemia (iron deficiency): anemia is quite common and not serious, but it can make you extremely tired and cause vagal discomfort. Don't hesitate to talk to a trusted adult.
• Orange: As with light pink periods, the orange color can be related to the color of blood mixed with vaginal discharge. However, it can also have other causes, such as infections. If you have an orange period, be on the lookout for other symptoms, such as itching, unusual odors, or discomfort: if you notice these symptoms, it's a good idea to talk to a trusted adult.
• Gray: A gray-colored period usually indicates an infection, such as bacterial vaginitis. Look out for other signs of infection, such as a bad vaginal odor, a burning sensation when you go to the bathroom, and itching in and around your vagina.
• What about white? White is not a period, but a vaginal discharge , also called cervical mucus . This is part of your menstrual cycle and can be present throughout your entire cycle: there's no need to worry!

In other words, it's normal for your period blood to change color during your period. However, light pink, orange, or gray periods aren't necessarily normal and require you to pay attention to your body and how you feel.

How do you know if you're about to get your period? 6 warning signs

Maybe you're feeling stressed about the fact that your first period could arrive at any moment, without warning. It's true that it's not the kind of thing you want to experience for the first time in gym class... 🥺

To reassure you, know that there are generally a few warning signs—even if we're not all in the same boat. Again, all women are different and there is no universal rule.

Menstruation most often occurs during puberty, when the body is evolving and changing. Here are some symptoms you can expect before your first period arrives soon!

1. Your breasts are growing

It's one of the most well-known symptoms of puberty in girls. A source of pride or shame, breast development is often a major source of self-doubt. Breast development is one of the first stages of puberty and is a precursor to the upcoming arrival of menstruation—although there's no real rule between breast enlargement and the onset of menstruation.

2. Your hair starts to appear

Dark hairs begin to appear on your pubic area and under your armpits. Like breast growth, this is a common sign of puberty and the impending arrival of your period. Again, there is no clear link between the appearance of hair and the onset of your period.

3. You had a growth spurt

Puberty is also marked by growth. Generally, in girls, menstruation occurs after the main growth spurt. In fact, once girls have their first period, it is estimated that they continue to grow for another 2 years and can gain up to 10 centimeters.

4. You have a little acne

Just like hair, breast growth, and growth spurts, the appearance of acne pimples, whether on your face, neck, or back, is a sign that you're in puberty! While acne can have several causes, it's often hormonal: you'll notice, when you get your period, that it tends to increase at certain times of your menstrual cycle (just before your period, in particular!). In short, if you start to get acne, it's not impossible that your period will appear soon.

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5. You had your first white discharge

Just like your first period, your first white discharge can be both worrying and unappealing. A slightly viscous or sticky, white or translucent material seems to be deposited at the bottom of your panties. This is called white discharge or cervical mucus. This is completely normal and healthy, so don't panic! However, the appearance of white discharge indicates that your menstrual and hormonal cycle is starting to get agitated: your first period is approaching.

6. Just before your first period, you may experience cramps.

Last but not least, the onset of menstrual cramps is the onset of menstrual cramps. If you have pain in your lower abdomen, with the feeling that it's contracting strangely, it's possible that you're about to have your first period. The pain can start a few days before your period and continue during it. However, be aware that not all women experience stomach pain during their period, and the pain you feel during your period can vary greatly!

👉 Do you think your first period is coming? Our tip

Always keep menstrual protection in your bag (we'll talk about it later). You can put it in a pretty pouch to stay discreet if it bothers you. And also, know that for most of us, the first hours of the first period are not heavy: it's very possible that your period will arrive one day and you'll only discover it in the evening when you get home!

What menstrual protection can you choose for your first period?

Think you're about to get your first period, or are you about to get one, and you're wondering which menstrual protection to choose ? Let's take a look at the different types of menstrual protection—their pros, cons, and our favorites in store—as well as the importance of choosing suitable and safe products.

Disposable menstrual pads

Disposable menstrual pads are pads that you place over your underwear to absorb the flow of blood that flows outside your body. They attach to your underwear using a self-adhesive strip underneath the pad, as well as the wings that keep it in place.

The advantages

• Practical: disposable menstrual pads are easy to find, can be easily stored in a small pouch and simply thrown in the trash when used;
• Cheap in the short term: While disposable menstrual pads are expensive in the long run, a pack of disposable menstrual pads is not very expensive to buy.
• Adapt to different flows: there are pads of varying thickness that can adapt to different types of flow (heavy, normal or light);
• Do not require putting your fingers in your vagina: it can be difficult, even unhygienic and unpleasant, especially at the beginning and in the school toilets, to put your fingers in your bloody vagina...

The disadvantages

• Sometimes unpleasant odor: worn for a long time, pads can give off an unpleasant odor that can make you feel like you smell bad and bother you;
• Sometimes unpleasant sensation: even if the pads have good absorption, you may feel like you are “wet”. This is especially true if your period is heavy: you can feel the blood flowing and you may feel like it is going to overflow and stain;
• Can move and cause leaks: Even when properly attached with the wings, sanitary napkins can move in your panties (especially during sports) and cause a leak. If this risk scares you, know that some people double their protection by putting a sanitary napkin over menstrual panties;
• Possible presence of chemicals: Disposable sanitary pads may contain chemicals, such as chlorine used to bleach them. This can lead to allergies, irritation, and discomfort. If you choose disposable menstrual pads, consider organic sanitary pads that are free from controversial chemicals.
• Not very good for the environment: like all single-use products (plastic water bottles and straws, diapers, etc.), disposable towels create pollution.

Washable menstrual pads

Reusable menstrual pads are similar to disposable menstrual pads, except they're made of fabric so they're washable and reusable. They're pads that you place over your underwear to absorb the flow of blood that flows outside your body. They attach to your underwear using snaps on the wings.

The advantages

• Adapt to different flows: as with disposable sanitary towels, there are towels of varying thickness and size that can adapt to different types of flow (heavy, normal or light);
• Do not require putting your fingers in your vagina: It can be difficult, even unhygienic and unpleasant, to put your fingers in your bloody vagina…
• Cheaper in the long run: Depending on the length and flow of your period, you'll need at least six reusable sanitary pads. However, a pad costs at least ten euros, so you'll need to spend more than €50 to get one for the first time! This expense will then pay off in the long run;
• Good for the environment: Unlike disposable menstrual pads, reusable menstrual pads are designed to be used. They therefore have a much longer lifespan (up to 5 years), making them better for the environment. What's more, they can be sewn from existing fabric scraps—making them good environmental performers!

The disadvantages

• Impractical: Less easy to find in stores than disposable menstrual pads, washable menstrual pads should not be thrown away when they are used. It is therefore necessary to have an airtight bag with you to store them (they do not smell very good). What's more, you must remember to wash them properly to enjoy them for a long time;
• Sometimes unpleasant odor: when worn for a long time, washable towels can give off an unpleasant odor that can make you feel like you smell bad;
• Sometimes unpleasant sensation: even if your washable towel has good absorption, you may have the unpleasant feeling of being “damp”. What’s more, some towels are quite thick: feeling them under you when you sit down is not necessarily pleasant;
• Can move and cause leaks: Even when properly attached with the wings, washable pads are likely to move (especially during sports), causing a leak. If this risk scares you, know that some people double their protection by putting a sanitary pad over menstrual panties;
• Possible presence of chemicals: Reusable sanitary pads may contain chemicals, depending on how the fabric is treated and the detergent you use to clean them. This can lead to allergies, irritation, and discomfort. If you choose reusable menstrual pads, opt for fabrics certified with the Oeko-Tex label, which guarantees the absence of chemicals in the product's fabrics.

The tampons

Unlike menstrual pads, which collect menstrual blood as it leaks out of the body, tampons are placed inside the vagina to intercept the blood inside the body. The tampon can be inserted with an applicator or directly with your finger, while the tampon is removed using a small string attached to the tampon.

The advantages

• Practical: Widely popular, tampons are easy to find in stores. They take up little space and can easily be stored in a pocket. Once used, simply throw them in a trash can;
• Adapt to different flows: there are tampons for more or less abundant flows (generally, there are three options: light, normal and abundant flow);
• Cheap in the short term: While tampons are expensive in the long term, a pack of disposable tampons is not very expensive to buy;
• Limited odor: Because tampons are placed inside the body, they do not release a strong odor when worn. However, they may release an unpleasant odor when disposed of in a trash can;
• Fairly low risk of leakage: The risk of leakage is much lower with tampons than with pads if you remember to change them regularly. If you have heavy periods, the trick is to pair a tampon with menstrual panties or a disposable or washable sanitary pad;
• Pool/Sea Safe: You can totally swim with a tampon! They absorb blood and allow you to enjoy the water if you want!

The disadvantages

• Requires a learning curve: Tampons are a form of protection that requires a little knowledge of your body. You might struggle to insert them correctly the first few times! Our advice: wear tampons when you're at home initially, in case you have to remove them. Also, if your tampon hurts, it's most likely because it's not properly positioned in your vagina! Note: there are tampons with and without applicators: the former are easier to insert but more expensive and more polluting.
• Requires inserting something into your vagina: When you're first discovering your body, inserting a tampon into your vagina isn't easy. You may feel uncomfortable with this idea at first: wait until you're ready to insert a tampon. As we've seen, there are plenty of other solutions!
• Need to be changed regularly: You may have heard about this. Tampons can cause a serious health problem, toxic shock. This can occur when blood remains stagnant in the body for too long: this is why it is essential to change your tampon regularly. It is estimated that you should not keep it in for more than 4 hours at a time. This is why you should not use tampons for protection at night.
• Possible presence of chemicals: Tampons may contain chemicals, such as chlorine used to bleach them. This can lead to allergies, irritation, and discomfort. If you choose tampons, consider organic ones, free from controversial chemicals.
• Presence of a foreign body in the body: studies are not yet very clear about the impact of placing a foreign body in the body;
• Not very good for the environment: like all single-use products (plastic water bottles and straws, diapers, etc.), tampons create pollution.

The menstrual cup

As its English name suggests, the menstrual cup is a small silicone cup that can be placed inside the vagina to collect blood from the inside. It works using the suction cup system, thus clinging to the walls of the vagina. Simply pinch it to remove and empty it.

The advantages

• Adapts to different flows: there are cups for more or less abundant flows (generally, there are three options: light, normal and abundant flow);
• Cheapest solution: a cup costs around twenty euros to buy and can last up to 5 years;
• Limited odor: Because the cup is placed inside the body, it doesn't release a strong odor when worn. Since its contents are emptied every time you change, it doesn't release an odor into the trash. Our tip for a completely clean feeling: empty your cup in the shower!
• Fairly low risk of leakage: the risk of leakage is much lower with the cup if it is correctly inserted and if you remember to change it regularly. If you have heavy periods, the trick is to use a cup + menstrual panties (or a disposable or washable sanitary towel);
• Suitable for swimming in the pool/sea: you can totally swim with a cup, the suction effect allows it to remain effective! It allows you to enjoy the water if you wish!
• Allows you to have good visibility of your flow: unlike other means of protection, the cup allows you to know exactly the nature of your menstrual flow (when it is abundant, less abundant, when it increases, decreases, etc.). You can clearly visualize the blood you are losing (which can disgust you... it's the more negative part);
• Very good for the environment: not only is the cup material recyclable (it is made of medical silicone) but it also has a long lifespan which makes it particularly interesting for limiting waste.

The disadvantages

• (Very) Impractical: The cup is the least practical hygienic protection to use. First, you have to find the right size. Then, you have to sterilize it before each period (put it in boiling water for about 5 minutes). Finally, you have to have access to a toilet with access to water so you can rinse it and clean your hands when changing it;
• Requires a learning curve: Even more than a tampon, the cup is a protection that requires a certain amount of knowledge of your body. It takes about 2-3 cycles before you can easily insert it! Our advice: wear the cup when you're at home initially, in case you need to remove it to put it back in correctly. Also, if you can feel your cup, it's either not positioned correctly or the right size!
• Requires inserting something into your vagina: When you're first discovering your body, inserting a cup into your vagina isn't easy. You may feel uncomfortable with this idea at first: wait until you're ready to get started. As we've seen, other solutions exist!
• Needs to be changed regularly: Like tampons, cups are also thought to cause a serious health problem, toxic shock (we're sticking with the conditional, as there are fewer studies on cups!). Avoid keeping your cup in for too long—4 hours at a time is enough. This is why you shouldn't use tampons for protection at night.
• Presence of a foreign body in the body: While the medical silicone that makes up the cup is supposed to be particularly safe, studies are not yet very clear on the impact of placing a foreign body in the body.

Our favorite product

The menstrual cup is a useful protection, although it takes a little time to get used to it (it may be a little difficult to use at first). We really like the Jho brand medical silicone cup because it has a stem that makes it easier to handle—perfect for beginners. It comes in two sizes: normal flow and heavy flow.

Menstrual panties

Menstrual panties are, as their name suggests, panties that have built-in menstrual protection. Menstrual panties have grown significantly over the past ten years to become one of the most popular protection methods for women. They are particularly useful for the first period because they are non-intrusive, limit the risk of leakage, and are relatively easy to use! As a bonus, menstrual panties are washable, which is more environmentally friendly.

A quick aside about swimsuits! For a few years now, you may have noticed that menstrual swimsuits have also been available. While it's not recommended to swim in these swimsuits (it's not risky, but absorption will definitely be lower!), they will allow you to enjoy the beach and avoid using a tampon.

The advantages

• Adapt to different flows: there are menstrual panties for more or less abundant flows (generally, there are three options: light, normal and abundant flow);
• Cheaper in the long run: depending on the length and flow of your period, you need at least six washable menstrual panties. A pair of menstrual panties costs around twenty euros minimum: you will therefore need to spend more than 100€ to get your first pair! This expense will then pay off in the long run since the panties can be kept for around 2 years (if you keep the same size);
• No learning curve required: Menstrual panties are put on like regular panties. They just need to be rinsed in cold water and washed at 30°C. This makes them easy to use!
• Fairly low risk of leakage: the risk of leakage is low with menstrual panties because they fit your shape and do not move. However, it is necessary to choose panties with a flow adapted to your flow (if you choose panties for light flow when your flow is heavy, you risk being uncomfortable!). Our tip if you have heavy periods: put a sanitary towel over the menstrual panties;
• Important comfort: While pads can sometimes feel like you're wearing a diaper because they move or are thick, this isn't the case with menstrual panties, even for heavy flows. They're very comfortable to wear!
• Very good for the environment: the long lifespan of menstrual panties makes them a more ecological solution than disposable protection.

The disadvantages

• Impractical: While menstrual panties have the merit of being comfortable, they have several drawbacks. First, it can be difficult to choose your brand at first (we've selected our favorites for you on our site!). Furthermore, dirty and full menstrual panties may need to be changed during the day in case of heavy flow: you then need to have a spare pair of panties + an airtight pouch to store your dirty panties. An intermediate solution: put a disposable sanitary pad over your menstrual panties. This way, you spend the first part of the day with the sanitary pad and once it's dirty, you throw it away, and you have the menstrual panties for the second part of the day!
• Sometimes unpleasant odor: worn for a long time, menstrual panties can give off an unpleasant odor that can make you feel like you smell bad;
• Sometimes unpleasant sensation: even if your menstrual panties have good absorption, you may have the unpleasant feeling of being “wet”, especially if you have a heavy flow;
• Possible presence of chemicals: Menstrual panties may contain chemicals, depending on how the fabric is treated and the detergent you use to clean them. This can lead to allergies, irritation, and discomfort. If you choose menstrual panties, opt for fabrics certified with the Oeko-Tex label, which guarantees the absence of chemicals in the product's fabrics.

Our favorite products

We believe menstrual panties are the best option for first periods! That's why we recently released a pack of menstrual panties suitable for teens from the Smoon brand . They are available for regular and heavy flows. They are comfortable, effective, leak-free, invisible, and odorless.

Do you love going to the beach and are you considering getting a menstrual swimsuit to avoid tampons and feel good? Go discover our menstrual swimsuit from the Smoon brand. Its advantage? It can also be used as a menstrual leotard if you do dance or gymnastics!

Also read: How do period panties work? >

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The importance of choosing products that are right for you and safe

As we finish this detailed presentation of the different solutions available to you to protect yourself during your first period, we wanted to emphasize the importance of choosing products that are adapted to your needs and safe.

Not only are periods not an easy time of the month, but they also affect your body. That's why it's essential that you feel comfortable and comfortable with the sanitary protection you choose. Just because someone you know uses tampons doesn't mean you have to start with tampons: it's normal for you to not feel comfortable with this method of protection! Go at your own pace. Some women wear pads their whole lives and can't stand tampons: that's their absolute right! If you want to try new methods of protection (especially cups and tampons), don't hesitate to do it when you have your period on the weekend, at home. That way, you'll be able to go to the bathroom easily and check that everything is okay!

Beyond the issue of adapting your protection to you, it's important to pay attention to your health. Menstrual protection touches a sensitive and intimate area. If you have sensitive skin, it can cause irritation to the vulva. Choosing protection without controversial chemicals and paying attention to how you use your protection (avoiding wearing tampons and cups for more than 4 hours at a time in particular) is important!

Better manage your period at school or when going out with friends

No need to feel guilty: every person who menstruates has tied a sweatshirt around their waist to hide a period stain on their butt! 😶‍🌫️Let's make sure this happens to you as little as possible! Here are some tips and solutions to help you manage your period at school or on your outings!

Better manage your period at school

Are you anxious about having your period at school? Are you afraid of being caught off guard? We'll give you our tips for better managing your period when you have it at school or when it happens at school!

A perfect protective combo for school

We all have very different flows! And for people with heavy flows, the idea of spending several hours in a classroom without access to a restroom can be particularly stressful! Here's our perfect combo to better manage your period at school on days when your flow is heavy:

• In the morning, wear menstrual panties that fit your flow and fit. Then, put a disposable sanitary pad on top.
• At lunchtime, when you go to the bathroom, the disposable sanitary protection will be dirty. Throw it in the toilet bin. You can wrap it in toilet paper for peace of mind. Then, either put on a disposable sanitary protection again if you have a heavy flow, or don't put anything back on: your menstrual panties will protect you for the afternoon.
• In the middle of the afternoon, you can remove the disposable sanitary protection a second time and let your menstrual panties protect you until the evening.
• In the evening, change. Put on clean menstrual panties and wash your menstrual panties.

The advantage of this solution is that it prevents you from having dirty menstrual panties in your bag. This is a solution for menstruators who have heavy periods: if your flow is light, menstrual panties can definitely last a full day without leaking!

A solution to never be surprised: the first aid kit

Are you worried about getting your period during the school day? It's true that it's not always easy to ask your friends or teachers for sanitary protection! To avoid this unpleasant experience, we highly recommend that you put together a first aid kit!

In a small fabric pouch, put:

• your favorite sanitary protection (two or three sanitary napkins, or two or three tampons or menstrual panties);
• a change of underwear, if you wear pads and tampons, in case you stain;
• intimate wipes

Now you're ready if your period arrives unexpectedly!

And don't forget to refill your first aid kit every time you dip into it to avoid getting into trouble! To avoid forgetting, we recommend that you always put back in your pouch at night what you took that same day.

To manage your leaks

Leaks or that moment when you check your chair to make sure you haven't left blood everywhere... We all hate that moment! To avoid that, here are some tips!

• Choosing the right protection: If you have a heavy flow, you need to choose protection that's adapted to your flow and therefore likely more absorbent. Pads, tampons, panties, and cups come in different sizes for optimal absorbency.
• Change regularly: Protection (whether it's a pad, tampon, menstrual cup, etc.) must be changed regularly to avoid spills. Generally, it's recommended that you change every 4 hours, but for some people, it may be necessary to change every 2 hours.

To feel fresh and clean

Let's repeat it for the record: periods are not dirty. That being said, we can have this feeling and wearing certain protections such as pads can give the impression of not being very fresh!

• Wash regularly: It's essential to wash regularly with warm water to feel fresh. You can use specialized soaps like Jho's intimate soap to feel clean while protecting your intimate flora, but it's not mandatory: water is enough. In general, avoid douching and using perfumed soaps: they can upset the vaginal flora.
• Use intimate wipes: If you feel the need, opt for fragrance-free intimate wipes to freshen up during the day, especially after changing your sanitary protection. They are particularly useful after exercise or when traveling.
• Change your underwear: If possible, bring a spare pair of panties in case of a leak. You'll feel better!

The clothes to choose

No white pants when your period is approaching : this is a rule that most women know and apply when it comes to clothing! But this is also the case for other tips that we'll share with you here!

• Favor dark colors: To avoid stress, we recommend avoiding light-colored jeans and pants during your period or when it's approaching! (We'll give you some tools to track the onset of your period a little later!)
• Avoid thin fabrics: Along the same lines, avoid wearing clothes that are too thin! Marks will show up more quickly, and we don't want that!
• Opt for loose cuts: if you tend to have stomach or chest pain during your period, choosing loose cuts that aren't too tight will be more comfortable!
• Bring a jacket or sweater: when you are unsure of yourself or when there has been a leak, tying a sweater around your waist helps hide the misery...

Also read: Is it possible to swim in the pool and have your period? >

How to follow your period?

💡Did you know? You can track your period and know when it's coming back! To do this, you can learn how to calculate your menstrual cycle and use apps to better understand it.

A little aside before we begin

In the following points, we will tell you how to learn how to calculate your menstrual cycle and tell you about the different applications that allow you to track your menstrual cycle. However, it is essential that you understand that as a young person who menstruates, you should know that your periods are likely to be very irregular. Indeed, it often takes time for hormones to stabilize! In the first two or three years of your period, it is possible that your cycle will be irregular:

• The number of days between periods can vary (in other words, the length of your cycle), making your periods quite unpredictable and requiring you to always have your first aid kit ready to avoid accidents!
• The length of your period can vary: having periods that last two days, then seven, then four is quite common among young women.
• Your period flow can vary: while your first period is often quite light, it can suddenly become heavier from one cycle to the next. In other words, always remember to carry protection in your bag!
• The symptoms associated with your period can vary: you may have no symptoms at first, then have a severe stomach ache, then nothing again... It's often variable and, as it happens, it's not just related to adolescence. Some women have different symptoms associated with their periods their whole lives!

Learn how to calculate your menstrual cycle

The number of days between your periods depends on the length of your cycle: in other words, if your cycle lasts 20 days, there will be 20 days between the start of your period. Therefore, knowing the length of your menstrual cycle can help you estimate when your next period will occur (if you are regular - if you are not, this time will vary...). Knowing your menstrual cycle will have other benefits: it will allow you to better understand your body and the symptoms associated with your period (stomach ache, breast pain, headache...).

To calculate the length of your menstrual cycle, it's quite simple:

• When your period arrives, it is day 1 of your cycle;
• Then count until your next period. If it arrives on day 22, your cycle is 22 days long. If it arrives on day 38, your cycle is 38 days long. And so on;
• Repeat this process for at least 3 months in a row: for some people, the cycle is regular (it always lasts 23 days, for example). For others, this is not the case, and big differences can be observed. Calculating the length of your cycle for several months in a row will allow you to know if you are regular or irregular. If you are regular, you will be able to easily anticipate when your next period will arrive; otherwise, you will need to pay attention to your body's signals (pain, vaginal discharge, etc.).

Know your cycle better: cycle tracking apps

To make your calculations easier and/or track your cycle so you know when your next period will arrive, you can use a cycle tracking app . The advantage is that it's super practical: you just have to indicate on your app when your period is and the app will estimate the date of your next period. Apps also have the advantage of "learning". So, if you correctly enter the first day of your period and the duration of your period into the app, the app will be able to predict when your period will start and how long it will be. Practical for planning ahead!

We recently published a long article on menstrual cycle tracking apps . In summary, we recommend Clue or Flo Health, which have sufficient free features for period tracking and the advantage of being in French. But don't hesitate to read this article to select the app that suits you best!

How to manage your period pain

In recent years, we've been talking more and more about menstrual cycle pain. You may have already heard of endometriosis, PMS, or PCOS (if not, no worries, we'll talk about it right after!). Without necessarily having these conditions, it's possible that you suffer during your period. Where does the pain come from, what are the "normal" symptoms, and what solutions exist to reduce pain and manage it better: let's talk about it!

First of all, where do period pains come from?

Dysmenorrhea refers to menstrual pain that occurs during menstruation, lasting several days per cycle, for years. Typically, dysmenorrhea appears 6 to 24 months after the first period, when the ovulation mechanism begins.

During menstruation, the uterus produces inflammatory substances called prostaglandins. These cause muscle contractions that facilitate the expulsion of blood. It is these contractions that cause severe pain, in the form of cramps.

“Normal” symptoms related to menstruation

So, there are different symptoms associated with periods. They can be more or less painful and bothersome depending on your cycle, and you may experience them all at the same time—or not.

Cramps in the lower abdomen or back

Menstrual cramps are the first symptom associated with menstruation because they are the most common! If they affect the lower abdomen, they can be felt as far as the lower back and legs! They are “normal” but not necessarily pleasant: there are different ways to relieve them. However, if medication is not enough to soothe them, it may be necessary to consult a doctor because they can be a sign of a pathology.

Breast tenderness

In the days leading up to your period, you'll likely feel a tightness in your breasts. It feels fuller and heavier. It pulls and hurts when you move. Don't panic: this is a very common symptom among menstruating people!

Diarrhea or constipation

Digestive problems are very common among menstruating people as their period approaches. In addition to a feeling of bloating, you may experience constipation or, conversely, diarrhea (fun!). There's no real miracle solution, but the more regularly you hydrate, the more you should be able to combat this symptom.

Headaches

As your period approaches, you may experience headaches. Menstrual headaches are called menstrual migraines or catamenial migraines. You can limit them by drinking caffeinated drinks (coffee, cola), taking painkillers, or sleeping (fatigue tends to intensify migraines!).

Nausea or vomiting

While nausea is often associated with pregnancy, it's less well known that it can also be associated with periods... and yet. It's possible that you might feel nauseous during your period; it's a common symptom. Even more so, if your menstrual pain is very severe, it's possible that it could make you feel like vomiting (if this is the case, consider consulting a doctor: such severe pain is not normal).

How can these symptoms be relieved?

These symptoms can vary in intensity as your period approaches and during the first few days of your period. There are several solutions to relieve your period !

Take a painkiller

You don't have to suffer. If you only take one thing away from this article, it's probably this. You don't have to suffer (we repeat!). It's pointless. So if your pain (menstrual cramps and catamenial migraines) is too bad, take a painkiller.

👉And if that's not enough? If that's not enough, even if it lasts for several menstrual cycles, consult a doctor. Not only will they be able to give you more sedative medication, but they will also be able to conduct additional tests to make sure everything is okay. Plus, you can also try the other tips below!

Apply heat

Heat is a muscle relaxant. It will help relieve the cramping sensation you're experiencing. In addition to taking a warm bath, you can use hot water bottles and heat patches. Be careful when using them: these devices can be very hot and cause serious injuries.

Massage practice

Massaging sensitive areas helps to warm them up and thus reduce pain.

To assist you in your massages, you can use different products that will help you soothe the pain you feel:

• You can also apply a heating balm to relieve pain. Jho offers a balm to be applied locally to sensitive areas . With a slightly minty hot-cold effect and 100% natural ingredients, its properties are both calming for lower abdominal or back pain;
• Miyé's Happy Cycles Soothing Body Serum has a texture similar to massage oil. This natural treatment is decongestant and soothing, and can be used to massage painful areas, such as the stomach and chest.

Exercise

It's true that it's not necessarily the first thing you want to do when you get your period, but exercising and playing sports is actually a good way to relax. Indeed, the endorphins generated by playing sports can calm menstrual pain. So if you feel up to exercising during your period, give it a try! ;)

Take time to relax

There are different practices that will invite you to focus on your feelings and sensations to allow you to better manage pain:

• Meditation
• Deep breathing
• Sophrology
• ASMR: This set of auditory stimuli can help you relax. There are many ASMR artists, and listening to their videos and podcasts can help you relax and sleep better.

Act on your diet

To limit pain and avoid problems related to transit, your diet can

• Favor anti-inflammatory foods: Inflammatory foods like gluten can tend to exacerbate menstrual cramps. In the context of endometriosis, for example, it is common to limit gluten to reduce pain;
• Reduce caffeine: As a stimulant, caffeine can tend to increase pain. Cutting back on cola and coffee in the days leading up to your period can help limit caffeine-induced pain.
• Eat fruits and vegetables rich in fiber: this advice will help you fight against digestive problems!
• Limit sugar: While sugar can help with emotional issues, it also tends to increase depression and mood swings. So if you tend to feel really down because of your period, try to avoid sugar as much as possible.

When to see a doctor?

It is generally accepted that pain that does not go away with a classic painkiller (Spasfon, Ibuprofen) is not normal. It is possible to have this type of very strong pain during a single cycle without it being serious or requiring you to see a doctor: as a young menstruating person, your hormones are still being established and it is possible that sometimes, you suffer from it. It is necessary to speak to a doctor if this severe pain recurs during several consecutive menstrual cycles or on a regular basis. He will suggest solutions and carry out additional tests.

Myths and misconceptions about periods

We'll end this article with a few statements you've probably heard here and there... and which turn out (spoiler alert!) to be mostly completely false! Let's deconstruct these preconceived ideas together!

The rules are dirty or impure

❌ That's wrong!

Periods are natural and a sign that you are healthy!

The idea that periods are dirty refers to ancient beliefs that are still deeply rooted and still held within certain cultures. Previously, people didn't make the connection between periods and fertility; that's why periods were seen as dirty. Since then, attitudes have gradually changed, but periods are still sometimes considered dirty or a little disgusting.

If you wash regularly and change your sanitary protection regularly, there's no reason for you to feel dirty during your period. However, if the smell of your period bothers you, you can use intimate wipes when you go to the bathroom to limit this discomfort!

We shouldn't exercise during our periods

❌ That's wrong!

It's totally possible to exercise while on your period. Walking, running, swimming... it's all possible during your period. In fact, the professional women's soccer players on the England national team specifically requested dark-colored shorts so they could play without fear of leaks! This is proof positive that exercise and periods aren't mutually exclusive!

That being said, it's possible that you may experience too much pain and fatigue to exercise during your period. We're all different, and it's possible that during a particular menstrual cycle or every time you have your period, you won't be able to exercise. In this case, ask your doctor for a medical certificate. You can also ask for tests and medication to avoid too much pain!

You can't get pregnant during your period

❌ That's wrong!

This belief is related to the fact that ovulation always occurs 14 days before menstruation. Since most women have cycles longer than 23 days, ovulation and menstruation almost never coincide—which is why there is a tendency to believe that you cannot get pregnant during your period.

BUT :

• Some women have shorter cycles: if their period lasts 7 days, the fertile time and the period may coincide!
• Teenagers often have irregular cycles with hormones that are not yet fully regulated: it is entirely possible that two eggs are released at different times in the menstrual cycle and that you are fertile during your period!
• During adolescence, fertility is at its peak. The risks of getting pregnant are higher (two eggs released, irregular cycles, etc.).

And generally speaking, beyond pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases like AIDS can be transmitted during sex that occurs during menstruation. So protect yourself with a condom!

Tampons (and cups) can rupture the hymen

❌ That's wrong!

The idea is quite widespread: tampons and cups are capable of breaking the hymen and causing young girls to lose their “virginity”.

The hymen is a membrane located at the entrance to the vagina. Contrary to popular belief, it does not rupture during the first sexual intercourse, but rather relaxes. Inserting cups and tampons into the vagina actually helps relax the hymen.

If you regularly use tampons and/or a cup, it is therefore possible that your hymen will be more flexible and that you will not bleed during your first penetrative sexual intercourse.

We will add here in passing that:

1. Not all women have a hymen!
2. A broken hymen is often associated with virginity, but you don't have to bleed the first time you have sex.

The period should last exactly one week

❌ That's wrong!

We have repeated it several times in this article: the duration of periods varies greatly among menstruating people and, moreover, the duration of periods can depend on the menstrual cycle.

In other words, it's normal to have a 2-day period. Or a 3-day period. But it's also normal to have a 1-week period. It's also possible (and normal) to have a 2-day period one time and a 1-week period the next. This irregularity can be difficult to manage, but it's not abnormal.

All menstruating people who have their periods are moody or unstable

❌ That's wrong!

“So, are you getting your period or what?” The idea that women are nervous in the days leading up to their period is widespread. Hysteria is even a condition historically associated with women and their mood swings!

And yet. Just as there are women who have periods that last 2 days or 7 days, there are women who are very nervous and irritable just before their period, while others have no mood swings at all!

If you feel really bad when your period starts (difficulty managing your emotions, very sad, depression , panic attacks, etc.), don't hesitate to talk to your loved ones and/or your doctor. Some menstruating people suffer particularly when their period starts, and there are solutions to limit these problems, such as taking hormonal contraception such as the pill, which smooths out the effects of hormones in the body.

All women experience menstrual pain

❌ It's (still) false!

At the risk of repeating ourselves, there are no rules when it comes to periods! While some women may experience excruciating pain during their periods, others may experience no pain at all. Similarly, one menstrual cycle may be pain-free while another is much more complicated to manage… It varies greatly.

If you experience severe pain, don't hesitate to talk to your loved ones and/or a doctor. It's not normal to be in pain. You can start taking painkillers to limit your suffering, and if the pain persists, your doctor may suggest further tests to see what's going on.

Readings to explore the subject of puberty

Would you like to learn more about puberty? Here are some books to discover to learn more about this topic!

Julia Pietri's Guide to Pussy Sex (Book 2)

Julia Pietri is the founder of the Clit Gang, a feminist media outlet. With The Guide to the Sexual Pussy (volume 2, suitable for ages 12-16) , she takes a different approach to Titeuf 's Guide to the Sexual Penis . In addition to illustrative explanations of the anatomy of the vulva, clitoris, vagina, and penis, she addresses the notions of respect, consent, and emotions. This book, aimed at boys and girls, advocates gender equality and allows you to learn more about periods, body hair, friendship, and love! Discover it!

Discover the guide >

Zep and Hélène Bruller 's Guide to Sex

From first emotions to puberty and the conception of babies,

The Guide to Sexual Penis answers all the questions you might have about love and sexuality. Accompanied by Titeuf, the teenager who has become emblematic of the author Zep, you discover the notions of consent, identity, and even diversity. What does it mean to go out with someone? Do we have to make love? What are periods for? What is a condom? With humor and without taboos, this guide creates dialogue, asks the right questions, and provides all the answers!