How to use a clit stimulator?

The clitoris, the only organ entirely dedicated to pleasure ... powerful! However, it was only in 1998 that we discovered its complete anatomy and it was not until 2017 that the clit made its first appearance in school textbooks, as Julia Pietri recalls in her book The Little Guide to Female Masturbation .

So many of us have only discovered the entire anatomy of the clitoris and understood its particularities in recent years!

How big is the clitoris?

The size of the clitoris at rest varies on average between 8cm and 12cm , it has more than 10,000 nerve endings * and swells up to twice its size when erect .

All bodies are unique, and the figures we give you are only averages. Indeed, like penises, all sizes of clitoris exist , some with a larger glans than others. The clitoris (external and internal parts) also becomes erect during sexual arousal.

*according to new research by doctor Blair Peters presented in October 2022 during a scientific conference of the “Sexual Medicine Society of North America and the International Society for Sexual Medicine”.

How do you know if you are clitoral or vaginal?

All people with vulvas experience pleasure through the clitoris. The external part of the clitoris, called the glans clitoris, is actually only 5% of the entire organ.

You can stimulate the clitoris by masturbating in 1000 different ways , you just have to be creative 😉

Attached to the pelvic floor, the clitoris moves during our movements and penetration, sexual pleasure in women and people with vulvas therefore requires stimulation of the clitoris, whether external or internal. Several areas in the vagina, vulva and anus are highly innervated and provide a lot of pleasure.

We can stimulate them in many different ways, to discover ways to explore these erogenous zones alone or in pairs, we recommend reading the book Jouissance Club, a map of pleasure by Jüne Plã .

I discovered Jouissance Club

A real gold mine to put in everyone's hands to explore your pleasure and that of your partner. An inclusive book that details the different ways to give pleasure to a vulva, a penis, an anus. A must read that we love at Gapianne.

You will therefore have understood that talking about being clitoral or vaginal is extremely reductive (thank you Freud...), because pleasure cannot be limited to one organ , but it is the whole body which is stimulated to bring pleasure and it is not just limited to the vulva, vagina, clitoris, perineum or anus, but to all these organs!

How to stimulate the clitoris?

Each anatomy is different and there is no magic recipe, what works for one does not necessarily work for another.

The glans of the clitoris (the external and visible part) can be stimulated in multiple ways : with the fingers, the tongue, by the “grinding or humping” technique (rubbing the vulva and the glans of the clitoris against a cushion or on the corner of a sofa for example) or using a vibrator or an air pulsating sex toy.

Do you want to discover more techniques to stimulate a vulva and clitoris? We recommend The Little Guide to Masturbation by Julia Pietri which explores female pleasure thanks to the collection of 6000 testimonies

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Also find CLIMAX the educational series which shows you 70 different masturbation techniques in front of the camera.

The sensitivity of the clitoris varies from one person to another , if you have a very sensitive clitoris , stimulating it directly can be uncomfortable or even cause pain. You can touch it above a sheet or underwear to come into contact with it gently. A fan of sex toys, in this case you will have to turn to stimulators with pulsed air technology.

What is the best clitoral stimulator?

In recent years, THE revolution in the world of sex toys has been pulsed air technology which blows air (or so-called suction, the famous clit vacuum, that's it!) on the clitoris and causes powerful orgasms which make the clitoris vibrate deeply.

The pioneers of this technology are the American brand Womanizer which invented this sonic pulsation technique.

🇫🇷 On the French side, Coco de Puissante has now taken over and remains our best seller. The Coco has both technologies: vibration and pulsed air, it is used to stimulate the clitoris externally and the G-spot internally... The opinions of our customers prove it, it is the favorite of the French 😍

Here we go my Coco

There are now many sex toy brands that have re-appropriated this technology. You can find different colors and textures with more or less flared “mouths” to adapt to all body shapes. We'll tell you more about it below!

How to use a clitoral stimulator?

A clitoral stimulator is an object of pleasure that has been designed to stimulate the glans of the clitoris. They come in all shapes, sizes, with vibrations and/or suction .

Place it on the clitoris and vary the vibration modes and speeds depending on the model you choose. We advise you to use intimate lubricant, in order to feel the sensations more 💦

Which clitoral stimulator to choose?

Vibrating clitoral stimulators

We have selected the best vibrators on the market for you:

Dune, a small vibrating pebble with soft curves and soft silicone. It can be placed on the vulva and clitoris to experience different forms of pleasure. This toy has several vibration modes to help you discover a range of sensations. The little extra is that this little object is not gender specific, it can also be used on the penis and scrotum.

Discover the Dune vibrator

Toupie , which lives up to its name, allows you to explore various sensations thanks to its unique shape: you hold Toupie between your fingers to place the little ball on the glans of the clitoris. You can also massage the lips and the entire vulva at the same time... de-licious.

+ info on the Powerful Spinning Top

For people who like oral sex, we recommend that you try The French Lover and its soft vibrating tongue which gently caresses the clitoris and vulva. Not bad for the glans penis or the scrotum too 😛

Pulsed air vibrators

SILA is clearly our favorite, it combines technology, fine vibrations, power and elegance for orgasms every time! SILA is specially designed to stimulate your erogenous zones and take you to explosive orgasms. Its elegant and ergonomic design fits your hand perfectly, allowing you to use it with ease. Featuring 8 vibration modes, you can customize your experience to your preferences, going from gentle vibrations to powerful pulsations in the blink of an eye! If you have a sensitive clitoris the SILA is perfectly suited thanks to its wide mouth, its pulsed air technology and vibrations from light to intense.

Discover the fabulous Aura sex toy , the pulsed air clitoral stimulator from My Lubie . This revolutionary sex toy takes up the challenge of adapting to all body types. It is equipped with two different sized tips that attach easily and guarantee a personalized experience.

Discover the Aura

The latest is the Ona, it is perfect for small budgets or people who want to start without getting too wet. Equipped with two technologies: vibration and pulsed air, it will stimulate your erogenous zones as you wish. It's so small and cute that it can be taken everywhere!

Discover the Ona sex toy

🍑 Discover our entire selection of sex toys for the clitoris and vulva here .

How to use a clitoral vibrator as a couple?

Clitoris vibrators can very well be used by two people, during penetration or not. This allows you to discover new sensations between partners and enjoy the vibrations of your favorite vibrator! There are no rules as long as both partners consent. It can also be a good way to renew your practices and explore new things. Find our dedicated article on the best sex toys for couples !

There are remote-controlled and dual stimulation clitoral stimulators, like the Tiani which works using a remote control that can be used alone or in pairs. The small rod can be placed in the vagina and the vibrating head on the clitoris. The remote control can be controlled by your partner and the rod allows you to stimulate the G-spot and the penis during penetration. BINGO!

Choosing the Tiani

How to find zone G?

We prefer to speak of the g zone rather than the g spot : this zone is located on the anterior wall of the vagina , approximately located 4cm from the entrance to it. This area becomes rough when you are excited, as Jüne Pla rightly explains in her book A Cartography of Pleasure.

The G zone is not a magic point but the confluence of the pillars of the clitoris which is also very close to the parauteral glands . When this area is stimulated, it can cause a “squirt”: the bladder fills with fluid from the parauteral glands and can be expelled through the urethra.

If you feel this irrepressible urge to pee during intercourse, it is because you are close to this female ejaculation. It's not always easy to let go and let yourself go in these moments, no pressure, sex is not a performance but an exploration of your body and that of the other. So, we go at our own pace, we listen to each other and we let ourselves be carried away by our desires. We can discover and rediscover ourselves throughout our lives!

How to use a g-spot and clitoris vibrator?

There are different vibrators that can stimulate the G-zone and the clitoris at the same time. At Gapianne our best seller is the Coco , a sex toy designed by Puissante , with a clitoral suction head and a vibrating rod that can be placed in the vagina at the same time to stimulate the G zone.

Here we go my Coco

Stimulation of the clitoris and G-zone can lead to an intense orgasm . Ready to take off? Find other advice on the different clitoral stimulators available on Gapianne.