How to masturbate? 4 erotic challenges

A woman with languorous eyes, naked, legs spread on a bed, caressing herself. Even if you don't consume pornography, it's a safe bet that you have this image when we talk about female masturbation . And yet, our solitary practices, as women, can take many other forms. Without taboo, we have decided to offer you four erotic challenges to try to get to know yourself better and achieve orgasm. Gone are the days of wondering how to masturbate !

Before you start: choose the right time

In the shower, in your bed, late at night, on your couch... There is no right place or right time to give yourself pleasure. The right time is the one you decide, when you want it and when you are not likely to be surprised.

If you have trouble relaxing and reaching orgasm when you touch yourself, choose a time when you are alone and have some time. You can opt to drink a CBD-based herbal tea to increase your feeling of relaxation and give yourself a moment just for you. ❤️ On our shop, we suggest you try the Ginger & CBD infusion from the Équilibre brand which will boost your libido.

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Erotic challenge 1 - Let yourself be carried away by the imagination

What if you pleasured yourself without touching yourself?

This is the idea of ​​the first erotic game on this list.

Once you are well established, begin to explore, in your thoughts, erotic scenarios that please you and arouse your desire. Because the main difficulty of this exercise is self-censorship (at first it is possible that you block your erotic thoughts because you do not find them “moral”), start with easily acceptable fantasies: think of your lover and to probable scenarios. Explore trails with your mind and see how your body responds. Depending on your arousal, continue in the fantasy you are pursuing or switch to another, which seems more exciting to you: you are the one who tells the story.

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Imagination and fantasies need to be worked on. There are of course pornographic films and videos – there are more and more of them thought and directed by women, but you can also look at erotic and pornographic literature. Books have the advantage of enormously stimulating the imagination and not only that. We also like erotic podcasts which are neither porn nor podcasts and which allow us to open up to other horizons.

Erotic Challenge 2 - Touch yourself in the places you like

What if you reached orgasm with your fingers?

This is the second erotic challenge that we offer you.

Run your fingers over your chest, surround it with your hands, caress your stomach, your pubic area, your lips, your penis. Press, pinch, stroke. Use one finger, two fingers, three fingers if you want. Insist. You don't have to penetrate yourself if you don't like it or find it disgusting: take the time to touch yourself, enjoy the contact, discover your sensations.

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At Gapianne, we love the book Jouissance Club, a map of pleasure , by June Pla published by Marabout. Not only do its illustrations make it beautiful enough to hang in your living room, but it also offers you ideas for better caressing yourself and discovering new sensations.

Erotic Challenge 3 – Use sex toys

What if you took the plunge and bought a sex toy?

This is what we offer with this third erotic challenge.

Vibrator, clitoral stimulator , yoni egg: sex toys are more and more varied and can adapt to your preferences or even help you discover new ones. And they are beautiful! With a soft touch effect and pastel colors, we move away from clichés! Plus, you can use them alone or as a couple (we’ll talk about that later!).

If this is your first time with a sex toy, we recommend you read our article on how to choose a vibrator as a beginner . There's nothing wrong with starting out and hesitating: that's part of the excitement after all!

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Erotic Challenge 4 – Practice with your partner

What if you shared your experience of masturbation as a couple?

This is our fourth and final erotic challenge.

Onanism can be a nice foreplay phase or a full-fledged sexual relationship. You can also choose to participate along the way – after all, you are in control of your own fun! Caress yourself, let him/her look at it, watch him/her caress himself, observe what he/she likes, he/she will see what you like. You can also use a sex toy or tell the fantasy that excites you.

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Do you like the idea of ​​sharing (some of) your fantasies with your partner and freeing up the floor about your sexuality? We can only recommend that you discover the game Discultons, from Gender Games . This game allows you to question yourself through increasing questions about your vision of relationships and sexuality.

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Female masturbation still a taboo?

Even though male masturbation is widely accepted, although sometimes mocked, female masturbation, like all female sexuality, can still appear taboo. As we mentioned in the introduction to this article, female masturbation is still often considered through the prism of the male gaze (the male gaze), as if a woman could not give herself pleasure without offering herself to the eyes of men.

However, discreetly, the practice of female masturbation continues to grow. According to a report published in 2021 by the European Observatory on Female Sexuality, 78% of French women admitted in 2021 to having already succumbed to the pleasures of onanism. They were only 19% in 1970 according to the Simon report .

And this is not to displease us. Masturbating means feeling pleasure, of course, but also discovering your body, knowing the areas that you like, taming your fantasies or even creating new scenarios as a couple. What's wrong with that? ❤️ On our e-shop, you will find our Plaisir collection , designed solely for your pleasure.