How to masturbate? 4 erotic challenges

A woman with a languid gaze, naked, legs spread on a bed, caressing herself. Even if you're not a porn consumer, chances are you have this image when we talk about female masturbation . And yet, our solitary practices, as women, can take many other forms. Without taboo, we decided to offer you four erotic challenges to try to better know yourself and reach orgasm. Gone are the days when you wondered how to masturbate !

Before you start: choose the right moment

In the shower, in bed, late at night, on your couch... There's no right place or right time to give yourself pleasure. The right time is the one you decide, when you want it and when you're not likely to be surprised.

If you have trouble relaxing and reaching orgasm when touching yourself, choose a time when you are alone and have a little time. You can opt to drink a CBD-based herbal tea to increase your feeling of relaxation and give yourself a moment just for you. ❤️ On our shop, we suggest you try the Ginger & CBD infusion from the Équilibre brand which will boost your libido.

Erotic Challenge 1 - Let Your Imagination Carry You

What if you enjoyed yourself without touching yourself?

This is the idea of ​​the first erotic game on this list.

Once you're comfortable, start exploring, in your mind, erotic scenarios that appeal to you and arouse your desire. Because the main difficulty with this exercise is self-censorship (initially, you may block out your erotic thoughts because you don't find them "moral"), start with easily acceptable fantasies: think about your lover and likely scenarios. Explore avenues with your mind and see how your body reacts. Depending on how excited you are, continue with the fantasy you're pursuing or switch to another one that seems more exciting: you're the one telling the story.

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Imagination and fantasies can be cultivated. There are, of course, pornographic films and videos—there are more and more of them designed and directed by women, but you can also look at erotic and pornographic literature. Books have the advantage of stimulating the imagination enormously, and not only that. We also like erotic podcasts that are neither porn nor podcasts and that allow us to open up to other horizons.

Erotic Challenge 2 - Touch Yourself in Places You Like

What if you reached orgasm with your fingers?

This is the second erotic challenge we offer you.

Run your fingers over your chest, cup it with your hands, caress your stomach, your pubic area, your labia, your genitals. Press, pinch, caress. Use one finger, two fingers, three fingers if you like. Insist. You don't have to penetrate yourself if you don't like it or find it disgusting: take the time to touch yourself, to enjoy the contact, to discover your sensations.

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At Gapianne, we love the book Jouissance Club, a map of pleasure , by June Pla, published by Marabout. Not only do its illustrations make it beautiful enough to sit in your living room, but it also offers ideas for better caressing yourself and discovering new sensations.

Erotic Challenge 3 - Use Sex Toys

What if you took the plunge and bought a sex toy?

This is what we propose with this third erotic challenge.

Vibrators, clitoral stimulators , yoni eggs: sex toys are becoming more and more varied and can adapt to your preferences or even help you discover new ones. And they are beautiful! With a soft touch effect and pastel colors, we are moving away from clichés! What's more, you can use them alone or as a couple (we'll talk about that later!).

If this is your first time using a sex toy, we recommend checking out our article on how to choose a vibrator as a beginner . It's okay to be a beginner and be hesitant—it's part of the excitement, after all!

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Erotic Challenge 4 - Practice with your partner

What if you shared your masturbation experience with someone else?

This is our fourth and final erotic challenge.

Masturbation can be a nice bit of foreplay or a full-fledged sexual encounter. You can also choose to participate along the way—after all, you're in control of your own pleasure! Caress yourself, let them watch, watch them caress themselves, observe what they like, and they'll see what you like. You can also use a sex toy or share the fantasy that turns you on.

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Do you like the idea of ​​sharing (some of) your fantasies with your partner and talking freely about your sexuality? We highly recommend you check out the game Discultons, from Gender Games . This game allows you to question yourself through questions that escalate into your vision of relationships and sexuality.

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Female masturbation still a taboo?

Even though male masturbation is widely accepted, though sometimes mocked, female masturbation, like all female sexuality, can still seem taboo. As we mentioned in the introduction to this article, female masturbation is still often viewed through the prism of the male gaze, as if a woman couldn't give herself pleasure without offering herself to men.

Yet, discreetly, the practice of female masturbation continues to grow. According to a report published in 2021 by the European Observatory of Female Sexuality, 78% of French women admitted in 2021 to having already succumbed to the pleasures of masturbation. This figure was only 19% in 1970, according to the Simon report .

And that's not to displease us. Masturbating is about feeling pleasure, of course, but also about discovering your body, knowing the areas that please you, taming your fantasies or even creating new scenarios as a couple. What's wrong with that? ❤️ On our e-shop, you'll find our Pleasure collection , designed solely for your pleasure.