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The best vibrators for beginners: which sex toy to choose?

Are you thinking about buying your first vibrator? You don't know where to start, or what the best vibrator would be for your desires? Here is a short guide and advice for choosing your first sex toy . Masturbation contributes to our well-being, like a sports session. But the most important thing is to go at your own pace and follow your desires!

Why buy a vibrator?

  • To do yourself good: It's a way like any other to take care of yourself, to unwind! We spend some time with ourselves, massaging ourselves. Masturbation is an intimate massage where we give each other love.

  • For better self-knowledge: Who better than you to discover your body, its erogenous zones and what makes you feel good? We may read all the books, but none can tell you what your vulva is like, what your desires and desires are: because we are all unique! Yes, the best sex education manual is already in your hands! Knowing your body better also means being able to better guide your partner during our relationships and to have fun together. Then if you need help you can always read the Guide to Female Masturbation .

Discover the guide

  • To add a little spice to 2 or more people: Introducing a vibrator during your intercourse can raise the temperature and allow you to discover new sensations together. Note that there are also sex toys for couples that will stimulate both partners at the same time.

  • To feel good in your head and in your body: treating yourself leads to the release of this hormone responsible for the feeling of well-being: dopamine. It also helps reduce stress, pain and makes it easier to fall asleep.

  • Perhaps discover orgasm, without pressure and at your own pace : there are no rules, it can come by surprise in a great moment of letting go. Better self-knowledge can lead you to enjoyment more quickly.

Sex toys are becoming more and more numerous and now meet multiple needs. It becomes difficult to make a choice, we would like them all!

How to choose your vibrating sex toy as a beginner?

We have put together a guide just for you, the beginners, the curious, to help you choose your first vibrator.


Yes, before knowing what you want, set out to discover yourself. Your little object of pleasure can make you discover new sensations.

The clitoris is the organ responsible for pleasure, with its 10281* nerve endings , there are things to explore! Know that the external part is the glans of the clitoris (the one that looks like a small penis, it also has erectile tissues), at the top of your vulva is only a very small part of the clitoris.

Its two large "legs" or corpora cavernosa which surround the vagina and the urinary meatus can be stimulated in many different ways: outside the vulva, inside the vagina (confused about the difference between the two ?) and even by stimulation of the perineum and anus.

So go on an adventure, explore your body by masturbating , help yourself with erotic podcasts if you need a boost to get in the mood.

clitoris diagrams

Excerpt from the Gapianne x Mia Guide to Intimate Well-Being.

*According to a new study published on October 27, 2022: How many nerve fibers innervate the human clitoris #001, Sexual Medicine Society of North America and International Society of Sexual Medicine.


Once you have discovered the many facets of your body and the pleasant sensations that accompany it, analyze desires to understand what suits you best.

This way, you will be able to determine the stimulations that make you feel pleasure and perhaps even have an orgasm: are these external stimulations? (vulva and glans of the clitoris), anal, or internal (the vagina is very innervated, its size and the texture of the vaginal walls change when we are aroused), or both.

But erogenous zones are not limited to your sex, on the contrary, think about all these other zones which also give you pleasure (nipples, knees, ears... again we are all different!)


And finally, identify what could influence your choice such as:

The pleasure zone: clitoral, vaginal or anal

The technology used (pulsed or vibrating air): different technologies for different needs 😉

Size : neither too small nor too impressive? It's up to you !

Vibrations : rhythm, intensity, number of modes to vary the pleasures

Design (shape and colors): we combine business with pleasure

Usefulness : is it for naughty solo pleasure, or to spice up during sexual intercourse? 🌶 To use in the shower? In this case opt for a waterproof one!

Your budget : when you love, you still count!

Autonomy and its charging method : its practicality to meet your desires

At Gapianne, we have selected the vibrators that are perfect for getting started, tested and approved!

The dune, soft and vibrating clitoral stimulator

dune, vibrator from my lubie

I want the Dune

The vibrating pebble in your hand that you don't want to let go of. Its soft silicone is extremely soft, its shape is ergonomic, it follows the shape of your vulva and clitoris .

Explore the different stimulation modes of this vibrator, more or less diffuse or localized for independent or shared pleasure. The little extra is that it has been designed to stimulate all bodies, to try on your penis partner too. Hello stimulation of the scrotum etc., it's a bonus!

SMILE MAKERS: sex toys for all tastes, all colors

Discover Smile Makers sex toys

This set of vibrators is perfect for beginners and small budgets . If you don't want to spend a lot of money on your first sex toy, the Smile Makers range is for you! You will hardly find lower prices (especially with our -10% welcome via our newsletter 😉)

You can find something for everyone, whether you are more interested in external stimulation (vulva and clitoris) or more internal stimulation. The Smile Makers brand even has the sex toy that does both with the Billionaire (formerly Millionaire).

Discover the Billionaire

You can also stimulate the G-spot area thanks to the Tennis Pro sex toy and its curved head. 🎾

The Smile Makers Tennis Pro

Double stimulation to discover your pleasure and your erogenous zones

L'Ona de Blush

Discover the Ona by Blush, it's small and cute. Equipped with a pulsed air mouth (Womanizer type but less expensive) for gentle and intense stimulation of the clitoris but also with a vibrating body to explore the slightest erogenous zone touched.

Gape mouth sex toy with double stimulation Ona in the hand and against a satin pajamas background - Gapianne

I want the Ona

Le Coco de Puissante

More sophisticated you also have the iconic Coco de Puissante . You can use the part for the clitoris (pulsed air) or the rod for internal pleasure... or both at the same time!

And then it's bingo, the orgasm comes very quickly and several times. Even check out the Coco reviews to convince yourself, it’s our best-seller! We advise you to choose a good lubricant with it in order to feel all the sensations 💦

I want Coco!

For unlimited (budgetary) pleasure!

It must be admitted that Lelo's SILA has been widely adopted by the entire team. The pulsed air technology (it's divine!), the finesse of its vibrations, its wide mouth which adapts to all body types gives you an intense orgasm of infinite pleasure... So we say YES! But technology obviously has a price. For those who have the GO budget and for others it seems that it can be put on a gift list!

Sila the pink clitoral sex toy from Lelo which is between the woman's legs

I offer it to myself

Anal plug, vibrating egg, other clitoris vibrators to test

For people who have other ambitions, we advise you:

Take the vibro quiz to find out for yourself

To give you a little help, we have created a quiz that will allow you to find out which sex toy is right for you ! In just 2 minutes you will know without any mistake which sex toy corresponds to your desires, needs, preferences and your budget!

Come on, we tell you, at the end of the quiz, you will find a little surprise 😀 🎁

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