The best sex toys for couples: which one to choose?

Beyond the solitary pleasure that allows you to get to know your body and feel good, couples can take great pleasure in masturbating each other . But what about introducing toys, the famous sex toys, into your relationship for more complicity, connection and sensations ? Which one suits you best? Vibrators, connected sex toys, remote-controlled, waterproof, clitoral stimulators without contact or with...

Let's revisit these points to understand how to introduce these little intimate accessories into your relationship.

Why use a sex toy alone or as a couple?

Women masturbate an average of 76 times a year , and men twice as much as women (according to a study by the Womanizer brand conducted in cooperation with Lucid in 2022). Hence the importance of raising awareness about intimate well-being for women!

The taboo of masturbation is being deconstructed thanks to sex education which allows us to no longer demonize pleasure and to understand that it is even advisable and good for our health to masturbate!

Since the lockdown, more than 50% of French people have already used a sex toy for the first time!

Sexpert Maïa Mazaurette reminds us in GQ that "if masturbation is perceived as disgusting, let's transform it into a truly pleasant, legitimate and pleasant moment. Let's invest in it. Let's think about people or actions that we like 100%, let's take more time, and if it makes us happy, yes, let's buy sex toys. If you have an ultra-luxurious cocktail mixer (which you obviously use every 36th of the month), why not a masturbator?" GQ: Getting into sex toys: not so simple!

 

How to use a sex toy as a couple?

1. It's been said before, but it's worth repeating: to start, check that you individually want it.
2. Remember: there is no injunction to use a vibrator (no, you are not old-fashioned if you don't want to use one). Simply, these small vibrating accessories will stimulate sensitive areas very effectively and can help you feel good, in your body, in your head, in your sexuality... and why not good in your relationship.
3. No competition! The sex toy is not in competition with you or your partner, it's a tool to give you pleasure in a different way. Let go of your ego and get involved, it's very exciting to see your partner get off , no matter how.
4. Concretely, you can use a vibrator while making love with your partner, activate their sensitive areas to see them enjoy it or caress yourself where it feels good. You can also sometimes masturbate at the same time during the act, as the vibrations can affect both of you.

Couple: how to choose your vibrator or vibrating stimulator?

At Gapianne, we are four women partners who observed the discomfort women can experience in sex shops. That's how we created Gapianne, the first intimate wellness e-shop dedicated to women.

So that they can peacefully choose a sex toy to use as a couple, or alone, without judgment and with an experience focused on female well-being .

In this regard, visit our site which includes clitoral stimulators , organic lubricants, massage oils, etc. to have a quick look at our entire selection.

And if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask us in the chat, it's just between us ;)

Which sex toy to choose when you're starting out: womanizer, rabbit vibrator, vibrating ring?

Choosing the right vibrator means thinking about your pleasure and that of your partner. Choose the type of stimulation that suits you or them best. We know that it's not always easy to know which vibrator to use when you're a beginner .

The best clitoral stimulators

When looking for a sex toy for couples, internal stimulation isn't always what you expect.

If this is your case, we recommend clitoral stimulators , which focus not on penetration but on the clitoris. Whether alone or with others, the clitoral vibrator can be used during foreplay or at the same time as penetration to enhance internal sensations. It's a powerful tool for reaching orgasm at the same time as your partner . This is the perfect opportunity to meet them and discover their superpowers!

Toys that stimulate the clitoris have become increasingly popular among women for their ability to deliver fast and intense orgasms . It's an extremely sensitive area rich in nerve endings (it has 10,000), which means it can be aroused in many different ways.

Among them, the Dune from the French brand My Lubie, the Lelo products or the womanizers from the eponymous brand which will spice up your sexual relations or your little moment of personal masturbation .

The Dune is a small pebble made of medical silicone that tickles the glans of the clitoris and erogenous zones as well.

On the other hand, the Lelo Sila or the Womanizer have a so-called "pulsed air" function. This means that they stimulate your clitoris with vibrating waves and stimulate your pleasure without actually touching it.

It's revolutionary because with this technique, your clitoris is not desensitized . In fact, sometimes the intensity of the vibrators is such that your nerve endings are overstimulated and you feel less sensation (only for a while, then it comes back, phew!).

Orgasm: The best dual stimulation sex toy

Now we're taking it to the next level. With dual stimulation, your vibrator will come with two tips that stimulate you both externally AND internally to increase your pleasure even more. Like the famous rabbit vibrator Carrie talked about in Sex and the City (we're talking about a time that those under 20 can't know).

Honestly, we have one big recommendation for you, just one: opt for the Coco by Puissante. It's also air-pulsed, so it's very gentle on your clitoris but waaaah, really effective.

Use only external stimulation or try its flexible tip, which adapts to your body and fits inside your vagina. Choose the pulsation and intensity that suits you and let yourself be carried away to seventh heaven.

From the same French brand Puissante, discover the latest, it's called Chouchou and revisits the famous Rabbit sex toy. With it, you can also enjoy dual stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot at the same time!

The Best Vibrating Sex Toys for Couples

Here is a selection of sex toys designed for couples to enjoy.

Empower each other with a remote-controlled sex toy that can be controlled by either partner. The Tiani 2 is the perfect couples' sex toy to spice up sex. Adjust the intensity remotely with a remote control to explore together: the external vibrating tip stimulates the clitoris while the shaft stimulates the G-spot and penis simultaneously during penetration to provide pleasure for both partners.

Tiani by Lelo

For a male partner, discover Tor, a vibrating ring (also called a cock ring) that fits over the penis and provides intense pleasure for both partners because the vibrating ring stimulates the clitoris when your two bodies are in contact. You can try several stimulation modes, more or less powerful.

TOR the vibrating ring from Lelo

To spice up this moment even more and discover pleasure for two in another form, you can have fun with our silk handcuffs from My Lubie available on our eshop!

Sex toys designed for penetration

If internal stimulation is more your thing, we have the 2 best G-spot-searching sex toys to recommend - tested and approved by the entire Gapianne women's team!

Meet the OG from Womanizer, the first G-spot sex toy with the brand's signature air-pulsed vibrating technology.

To start or for those on a budget, you can try the Tennis Coach from the Smile Makers brand , which is slightly curved to help you find your sensitive spot or that of your partner. Its original shape breaks the taboo and makes the moment more friendly, less serious, and less complex.

If you prefer a more minimalist and powerful style, the Maude G-spot vibrator will meet your needs. It has 5 different intensities to vary the pleasures. Maude is the famous American sexual wellness brand that Dakota Johnson (Fifty Shades of Grey, no less!) recently joined.

Other ideas to (sex)explore as a couple?

Here are some more ideas to get in the mood and have fun as a couple :

• Let's Discult: A board game to explore each person's preferences
• Jouissance Club: an illustrated guide that has become our bible and a real MUST HAVE for having the basics of a fulfilling sexuality
• Libertine CBD oil for your intimate massages or lubrication
• The Jouissons box, containing a sex toy, lubricant, condoms, and edible massage oil
• The Weekend box to use for a romantic getaway

Remember that the most important thing in all of this is connection, listening to yourself and to your partner.