How to use a clit stimulator?

What to remember

• Before using a clitoral stimulator, make sure it's clean. You can apply a little water-based lubricant to your clitoris to enhance sensation and prevent irritation.
• Start with low intensity settings, gently placing the stimulator on or around the clitoris, depending on your preference. Experiment with different patterns and movements (circular, up and down) to find what feels most pleasurable for you.
• After each use, carefully clean the stimulator with a mild soap or a specific sex toy cleaner, then dry it before storing it in a clean, dry place.

The clitoris, the only organ entirely dedicated to pleasure ... powerful! However, it was only in 1998 that we discovered its complete anatomy and it was not until 2017 that the clitoris made its first appearance in school textbooks, as Julia Pietri reminds us in her book The Little Guide to Female Masturbation.

So many of us have only discovered the full anatomy of the clitoris and come to understand its specificities in recent years!

How big is the clitoris?

The size of the clitoris at rest varies on average between 8cm and 12cm , it has more than 10,000 nerve endings * and swells up to twice its size when erect .

All bodies are unique, and the figures we give you are only averages. Indeed, like penises, clitorises come in all sizes , some with a larger glans than others. The clitoris (external and internal parts) also becomes erect during sexual arousal.

*according to new research by physician Blair Peters presented in October 2022 at a scientific conference of the "Sexual Medicine Society of North America and the International Society for Sexual Medicine."

How do you know if you are clitoral or vaginal?

All people with vulvas experience pleasure through the clitoris. The external part of the clitoris, called the glans clitoris, is actually only 5% of the entire organ.

You can stimulate the clitoris by masturbating in 1000 different ways , you just have to be creative 😉

Attached to the pelvic floor, the clitoris moves during our movements and penetration, sexual pleasure in women and people with vulvas therefore comes from stimulation of the clitoris, whether external or internal. Several areas in the vagina, vulva and anus are highly innervated and provide a lot of pleasure.

They can be stimulated in many different ways. To discover ways to explore these erogenous zones alone or as a couple, we recommend reading the book Jouissance Club, a map of pleasure by Jüne Plã .

A veritable treasure trove for anyone to explore their own pleasure and that of their partner. An inclusive book that details the different ways to pleasure a vulva, a penis, and anus. A must-read that we love from Gapianne.

So you will have understood, talking about being clitoral or vaginal is extremely reductive (thanks Freud...), because pleasure cannot be limited to one organ , but it is the whole body which is stimulated to bring pleasure and it is not only limited to the vulva, the vagina, the clitoris, the perineum or the anus, but to all these organs!

How to stimulate the clitoris?

Every anatomy is different and there is no magic recipe; what works for one person may not work for another.

The glans of the clitoris (the external and visible part) can be stimulated in many ways : with fingers, tongue, by the “grinding or humping” technique (rubbing the vulva and the glans of the clitoris against a cushion or the corner of a sofa for example) or with a vibrator or an air pulsating sex toy.

Want to discover more techniques for stimulating a vulva and clitoris? We recommend Julia Pietri's The Little Guide to Masturbation, which explores female pleasure through a collection of 6,000 testimonials.

Also check out CLIMAX, the educational series that shows you 70 different masturbation techniques on camera.

The sensitivity of the clitoris varies from one person to another , if you have a very sensitive clitoris , stimulating it directly can be uncomfortable or even cause pain. You can touch it over a sheet, underwear to make gentle contact with it. If you are a fan of sex toys, in this case you will need to turn to stimulators with pulsed air technology.

What is the best clitoral stimulator?

In recent years, THE revolution in the world of sex toys has been air-pulsed technology , which blows air (or suction, the famous clitoris vacuum cleaner!) onto the clitoris and causes powerful orgasms that make the clitoris vibrate deeply.

The pioneers of this technology are the American brand Womanizer, which invented this sonic pulsation technique.

🇫🇷 On the French side, the Coco by Puissante has now taken over and remains our best seller. The Coco has both technologies: vibration and pulsed air, it is used to stimulate the clitoris externally and the G-spot internally ... Our customers' reviews prove it, it's the French favorite 😍

There are now many clitoral sex toy brands that have reclaimed this technology. You can find different colors and textures with more or less flared "mouths" to adapt to all body types. We'll tell you more about them below!

Looking to buy your first sex toy? Check out our article on vibrators for beginners !

How to use a clitoral stimulator?

A clitoral stimulator is a pleasure object designed to stimulate the glans of the clitoris. They come in all shapes and sizes, with vibration and/or suction .

Place it on the clitoris and vary the vibration modes and speeds depending on the model you choose. We recommend using intimate lubricant to feel the sensations more💦

Which clitoral stimulator should I choose?

Vibrating clitoral stimulators

We have selected the best vibrators on the market for you:

Dune, a small vibrating pebble with soft curves and soft silicone. It can be placed on the vulva and clitoris to experience different forms of pleasure. This toy has several vibration modes to allow you to discover a range of sensations. The added bonus is that this little object is gender-neutral; it can also be used on the penis and scrotum.

Toupie, which lives up to its name, allows you to explore various sensations thanks to its unique shape: you hold Toupie between your fingers to place the small ball on the glans of the clitoris. You can also massage the labia and the entire vulva at the same time... de-li-cious.

For those who enjoy oral sex, we recommend trying The French Lover and its soft, vibrating tongue that gently caresses the clitoris and vulva. Not bad for the glans penis or scrotum too 😛

Air pulse vibrators

SILA is clearly our favorite, it combines technology, fine vibrations, power and elegance for orgasms every time! The SILA is specially designed to stimulate your erogenous zones and take you to explosive orgasms. Its elegant and ergonomic design fits perfectly in your hand, allowing you to use it with ease. Equipped with 8 vibration modes, you can customize your experience according to your preferences, going from gentle vibrations to powerful pulsations in the blink of an eye! If you have a sensitive clitoris, the SILA is perfectly suited thanks to its wide mouth, its pulsed air technology and vibrations from light to intense.

Discover the fabulous Aura sex toy , the pulsating air clitoral stimulator from My Lubie. This revolutionary sex toy takes on the challenge of adapting to all body shapes. It is equipped with two different-sized attachments that attach easily and guarantee a personalized experience.

The latest addition is the Ona, perfect for those on a budget or those who want to get started without getting too involved. Equipped with both vibration and pulsed air technologies, it will stimulate your erogenous zones whenever you want. It's so small and cute, you can take it anywhere!

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How to use a clitoral vibrator as a couple?

Clitoral vibrators can be used by two people, whether during penetration or not. This allows you to discover new sensations between partners and enjoy the vibrations of your favorite vibrator! There are no rules as long as both partners consent. It can also be a good way to renew your practices and explore new things. Check out our dedicated article on the best sex toys for couples !

There are remote-controlled and dual-stimulation clitoral stimulators, like the Tiani , which works with a remote control that can be used alone or with a partner. The small shaft can be placed inside the vagina and the vibrating head on the clitoris. The remote control can be controlled by your partner, and the shaft can stimulate the G-spot and penis during penetration. BINGO!

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How to find zone G?

We prefer to talk about the G-zone rather than the G-spot : this area is located on the anterior wall of the vagina , approximately 4cm from the entrance. This area becomes rough when you are excited, as Jüne Pla rightly explains in her book A Map of Pleasure.

The G-zone is not a magic point but the confluence of the clitoral pillars which is also very close to the parauterine glands . When this area is stimulated, it can cause a “squirt”: the bladder fills with liquid from the parauterine glands and can be expelled through the urethra.

If you feel this irrepressible urge to pee during intercourse, it means you are close to female ejaculation. It's not always easy to let go and let yourself go in these moments, no pressure, sex is not a performance but an exploration of your body and that of the other. So, we go at our own pace, we listen to ourselves and we let ourselves be carried away by our desires. We can discover and rediscover ourselves throughout our lives!

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How to use a G-spot and clitoral vibrator?

There are several vibrators that can stimulate the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously. Our best-selling product at Gapianne is the Coco, a sex toy designed by Puissante, with a clitoral suction head and a vibrating shaft that can be inserted into the vagina simultaneously to stimulate the G-spot.

Stimulating the clitoris and G-spot can lead to an intense orgasm . Ready to take off? Find more tips on the different clitoral stimulators available on Gapianne.

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